Why do others...

Why do others think that marriage is all blissful and really shouldn't fight that much? I can honestly say I've divorced Ryan 5 times the first year. The second year started out pretty good and up until recently, has gone a bit sour. It's hard being the only one communicating. His job takes him away from us and I get that and understand that - hell, I push him to stay overnight and get work done. I just wish he was in it at least 25% but he never saw a real marriage growing up with his parents and he thinks I want a marriage like the movies. Yeah....still trying to merge together.